This week post is about throw away that list of things we “will not do” with our child – we all have one or two things in our mindset when we start out this crazy journey of parenthood.
For me they were,
- I will never use a soother with my child
- I will never co – sleep with my child
Both of which were broken around 6-8 weeks old and do I regret it – heck no
My little one was given their first soother during a bad colic phase ( which turned out to be a cow milk protein allergy – more on that in a later post ) and it was the only thing that got my little one to relax enough to even cuddle into me .
Co-sleeping falls into this category as well and I have, to be honest even while I was still in a hospital , I remember waking up to my little one moaning away , a quick feeding and a cuddle within five minutes . They were happiest next to me , right in my arm and I felt at my most relaxed as well .
During one of these “colic” episodes – every time I pop my little one down in their sidecar cot next to me , they would just start to scream and scream . So I would often end up on my back , baby on my chest and my arms wrapped around them so I knew the second they moved . Bed sheet stopped at my hips to make sure baby never overheated while swaddled in her open weaved shawl in the early days .
The idea of putting my little one in the vast space of the bed next to me – I don’t like and went searching the net for something suitable for my little one that was closer to me and made me feel like they were “safe” next to me . I knew i would never roll onto my little one i was too aware of where they were .
Then I found it – The Sleepyhead pod stage one , the only thing that delayed me from paying it right away was the cost of it , but really once I got it – well my little one just loved it and it solved all my sleeping issues with them . ( needless to say, we are now onto stage two pod nowadays)
Another benefit of being a single mother is at times like these – when you just wanted to follow your gut and do what is best for you and your child is you have no one to fight with , no one to kick out of the bed and move into the guest bedroom for the next serval months – personally I love being spared all that hassle .
Brought it , the child loved it , happy mummy , happy baby , works for both , deal done !
So the message for today is, be ready to rip up the rule book , go with your gut and do what really works for you and your child .
Have a great week everyone xx